The Dangers of Toxic People & Benefits of Letting Them Go !!

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Let me just start off by saying that toxic relationships are dangerous to your health; they will literally kill you. Stress shortens your lifespan. Even a broken heart can kill you. People will drive you crazy if you let them. When you notice someone does something toxic for the first time, don’t wait for the second time before you address it or cut them off. Last year, I learned a few life lessons that taught me the importance of being selective about where & who I invest my energy in. I had certain goals that I was trying to reach, certain things that I was trying to achieve, big dreams that I was working towards & just trying to better myself as a person period and there were certain people that I hung around or allowed to be in my space that weren’t very supportive of any of those things.

They weren’t bad people! Yeah, sure it was fun to hang out with them every now & then, laugh, joke, cut up & have a few drinks with but eventually I realized that they just weren’t the type of people that needed to be in my inner circle. This is cliché but it is sooooo important to make friendships that are deeper than gossiping, drinking and going out. Make friends with people who love you, genuinely care about you and want to see you make it. Build friendships and relationships with people who are supportive of your dreams, who constantly encourage you to do better and most importantly pray for you.

Don’t get in the habit of hanging around people who show fake love, fake support, spread negativity, criticize you all the time, those who are jealous, don’t have any real life goals, constantly play the victim, who don’t care, are self-centered, always involved in drama & keep disappointing you. Those are toxic people you should just completely get rid of altogether. Never feel guilty about removing people like that from your life. It doesn’t matter if it’s a friend, new acquaintance, employer, romantic interest or family member!! You are allowed to terminate your relationship with toxic people! You are allowed to walk away from people who hurt you. Learn how to forgive and love people from a distance when it becomes necessary. Understand me when I say, “YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF”.

Love yourself enough to walk away from anything and anybody that no longer serves you growth and I’m serious! Last year, I finally learned how to start walking away from situations or people who threatened my peace of mind, self-respect or self-worth. I put a lot of distance between myself & those that I felt were becoming detrimental to my life and where I was trying to go.  I didn’t care if it meant me spending more time at home & less time on the phone. I knew that if I was going to have any chance at reaching any of my goals, being successful or get anywhere else in life besides where I was… I was going to have to make some changes concerning the people I chose to socialize with and invest my energy in period. As a result, my life has been more peaceful, a little less stressful and not only have I achieved SOME of the goals I set for myself but I also went way beyond them and I’m proud of that! I truly believe that your your inner circle can have an impact on your success.

I’ll tell you right now, you are only going to be as good as the people you surround yourself with. So be brave enough to let go of those who keep weighing you down. The more you become aware of what’s really worth your energy, the better off you’ll be. Letting go of toxic people is not cruelty. It’s an act of self-care. Always Remember That !! ❤️

thank you guys for reading post and visiting my blog today!! This was actually one of the very FIRST posts that I published when I joined the world of blogging and I thought it’d be pretty cool to share again since it carries such a strong message!! I pray that you have a great day!!

-Jessica

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41 Comments on “The Dangers of Toxic People & Benefits of Letting Them Go !!

  1. You are right but sometimes it’s difficult to let toxic relatives go. I feel I can’t go away from some relatives that are toxic to me and make me feel bad. Is such as, ok they make me feel bad but I can’t avoid to meet them time to time.

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  2. Couldn’t have said it better! I,myself, am guilty of being that toxic person at once. Dealing with too much, taking it out on others, and just slowly sinking in life but with counseling, a good man, getting back involved with church, and now a kid to. I definitely dont have the time to sink! I left that person behind and others who were like it. Including family smh You really just got to want to help yourself and some people just like being involved in mess.
    Youve said a mouth full! I loved reading this 😍😍

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  3. Exactly! I’ve been working on cutting out my toxic relationships again… I’d cut out the obvious ones, but it looks like I had a few stragglers that I hadn’t recognised home much they were draining the life out of me! I’ve got so much more energy now that I’m not spending time with people who bring me down.
    I’ve been talking about this on my blog recently as well. Have a lovely day! ❤

    Katie | http://www.katielclark.co.uk

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  4. This was an absolutely INCREDIBLE post Jessica! Everything you mentioned is extremely true and I definitely learned the hard way! I use to allow people that were less than good to be around and really did not bring anything good into my life. I have pretty much cut all those negative people out of my life, except for a few, but I am working on the rest. I have refuse to bring my heart into relationships with anyone that brings me down. Seriously if only there were more people like you in this world it would be a much better world!!

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  5. I wish I could figure out who I felt was actually toxic in my life. I try to help all without judgment. I go out of my way to be a nice person and do for others. I don’t do it expecting much in return. But, apparently I am not as nice as I think I am or so a few tell me when I say things that seem insensitive for example; today I feel like a single mom, or my husband sucks today sometimes I wonder if being single would be easier. (Don’t get me wrong many days he is great but other days are a struggle). Single by choice mom friend says I am insensitive and ungrateful because at least I have a husband. Yes that may be true but he was working for 7 days straight early am and late pm I got no break today, or this week, no time to shower, etc. She has 1 child and is lucky enough to be a sahm for now. Me well 2 kids, full time job, and I still find time to help her as much as possible. There is so much more to that story but I probably should just make my own blog post about it. Ha. Sorry I am very frustrated right now. I hate mom wars. Why can’t we all just understand we are all moms. No one has it better or worse. Harder or easier. We are all just trying to survive and it takes a village. Sigh… I should really let go of toxic people.

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    • Honestly, marriage is not always peaches and cream. It’s nice but it’s also work! You’ll have your ups and downs. Your marriage may have issues that the next marriage may not have. That doesn’t mean you don’t have a right to feel the way you feel. My Husband used to work 3rd shift a factory a fee years ago and I HATED IT because I felt like he never had the extra time to spend with me or the kids. Although the money was good .. I made him quit because I got too tired of feeling lonely. Too tired of feeling like I was in a relationship by myself. I got overwhelmed with working and taking care of the kids and the house. I just missed him and his affection lol his time.. his everything. I didnt care if my friends/family agreed with how I felt either! I hate sound mean but heck .. it’s MY home. I’m glad he respected how I felt enough to quit. Thankfully, he works somewhere now where we can still plenty of quality time.

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  6. loved your blog. so, honest and true. when i removed toxic people away from my life, my world changed for the better. a perfect blog. keep writing and we love you alot.

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  7. Ma’am I loved the Post. Truly , It become a challenge when you have to deal with people who threaten your peace of mind … most intricate yet necessary step 😑

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