Mature Enough to be Cordial

Today, I’m just thankful for growth. ❤ I am still growing in so many different areas of my life but this one right here.. I’m really thankful for! To be under the same roof with people who I know don’t like me, I don’t like them or they have intentionally done things to hurt me that I’m still trying to let go of and heal from.. to be literally in the same room with them and still have the maturity to be cordial speaks volumes of personal growth to me!! It didn’t hit me until this past weekend when I was sitting back reflecting on what areas I’ve grown in and then thinking about the areas I really need improvement in. You know you’re growing when things that used to bother you no longer catch your attention anymore. I have to be honest, I’m surprised to have even gotten to this point of maturity in my life.

I know that sounds terrible but I’m just being honest because at one point in my life, I used to get so irritated with having to be around people who I knew didn’t like me, who had bad intentions, whose motives were not to be trusted – the fake love, shady comments, petty jokes like it all used to get under my skin but here recently, I’ve noticed a change within myself !! I’ve been SO focused on the betterment of myself, my family, reaching my goals and being successful that I haven’t had the time to even think about those people! So when I do see them in person, no matter where we are, I’m able to smile, speak, be cordial and go on about my business.

I am genuinely no longer bothered because my focus is different and that feels SO good! 🙌 See, when you really get busy realigning with your own purpose in life, you don’t have time to beef with miserable people. Eventually, you just get to a point where you kind of let it go, wish them well and move on! It becomes a no love lost, no love gained type of thing .. or at least it does for me anyway! 🤷‍♀️ I don’t carry hate in my heart but I will put some distance between myself and that person for sure! However, if we happen to see each other in person or be at a mutual gathering or whatever .. I will be cordial. If you’re nice to me, I’ll be nice to you. You speak to me, I’ll speak back but other than that you won’t get anything else out of me. I’ll walk away very shortly after that. If you’re looking for a conversation out of me, you can forget it. You won’t be in my space unless I allow you to and that’s just what it is.

I am raising to my best self. So anyone who tries to hurt me will not get anything but a positive or mute response from my best self, period!I’ve gotten in the habit of being that way and to be honest, I don’t think it’s a bad thing! I guess it’s another way of how I keep my peace protected. People can’t get under your skin unless you let them and I’ve learned that when you don’t give people that kind of power over you, it bothers them! Sometimes, it actually bothers them more they could ever bother you. There’s power in prayer.. Power in distance.. Power in being the bigger person and sometimes power in just simply walking away.

Thanks for visiting my blog today! Your company here is always appreciated !! 🙂


37 Comments on “Mature Enough to be Cordial

  1. Hi Jessica, Truly understand what you are going through because I have similarities in my life. I always said, their hate is my strength 🙂 Love your commitment in doing the right thing for the betterment of you ❤

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  2. Speak it girl! I so needed this. I’ve been dealing with an issue of hurt & I’ve just haven’t dealt with it right. Thank you for your words

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  3. Very well said. We grow each and every day, no matter what age we are. Maturing and learning is what makes us great as human beings. I love your inspiration. Keep it up!

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  4. Very very well said!!! We all need to choose of battles in life and know that some are just not worth our precious time! Sometimes letting go of the pain other have caused is hard, but it will make us stronger and better for doing so!

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